Lessons learned

Admittedly I like guys that are assertive, ones with goals and determination...except when it comes to trying to get me to go out with them. I met someone virtually on-line, not someone that I would normally be attracted to but in an effort to be less judgmental and more open to experiences I decided to respond to his message. In hindsight I shouldn't have done it. The "I am looking for an Asian Princess, a girlfriend that I can take care of", was the giant red flag that I ignored. However, I felt compelled to address this specific issue. I was a bit angered and wanted to correct some assumptions. Apparently, my response was the invitation for the start of a marketing campaign to get me to meet up with him. Over the course of a week, he proceeded to message me at least twice a day and ask me out every other day. I managed to ignore it but eventually I felt like I should maybe give him a chance, he gave me his phone number and I mistakenly gave him mine, mistake 2. This was a Thursday and the Friday he called me. I was out with friends and he proceeded to ask if I was out on a date. I told him I would talk to him later. The next day, he texted me twice, I ignored him. He then called me and I answered, mistake 3. He told me about his ephiphany about curing HIV with tuna blood, then when I told him I was busy all week when he asked me out, he asked if I was going on lots of dates. I decided that he just wasn't the guy for me, I was feeling suffocated and I wasn't even dating him. I texted him and told him I didn't think it would work out. He texted back and asked me why and then when I told him it was a gut feeling, he called. I answered, mistake 4. So for about 15 minutes he tried to convince me to meet him for coffee, even for 15 mins. To get him off the phone I told him I would think about it and he made me promise I would call him. (I was on a date with someone else when I was on the phone with him, and my date couldn't believe how pushy he was). I texted him the following Monday and told him again that I didn't think it would work out. He once again called and I answered, mistake 5. For another 20 minutes he kept asking me to meet him. He decided that I was the kind of girl that he wanted for a girlfriend and I should at least meet him for coffee for 10 mins. We could be good friends. He then asked me the last time I had dated because apparently all my previous dates were jerks and that is why I wasn't giving him a chance. Yeah right... I finally told him he was creeping me out. He asked me one last time if I would go out with him. I told him no and he hung up on me. By the end of the call I was in tears because I was so frustrated. I hate confrontation and he really made me feel like a bad person because I didn't want to go out with him. I hate it when boys made me cry. The final creepy thing he did was send me another text last Monday, a week after the call with a Hi and a smiley face.

I truly believe that he would have been waiting outside my door if he knew where I lived.

So lessons learned: do not pick up the phone when you don't know who is calling. Do not give out your phone number to perfect strangers.